You know someone has great speech when they have great relationships at work and in their personal lives. You know they have great communication skills when people react well to their new ideas, when no one interrupts them, and when people do what they tell them to do. These people made learning how to speak better a priority in their lives.
Have you ever watched a video of yourself making a presentation and thought, “Ugh! That was terrible!” You rambled on using too many words. You used a few too many filler words and you didn’t sound authoritative.
And then felt shame. Like, “I only made that mistake because I didn’t prepare enough.” or “Somebody threw me off.”
But no, you only made that mistake because you haven’t learned the techniques to becoming an excellent speaker. But that stops here!
If you’re looking to improve your speech, congratulations. You’re taking a step towards improving your life. The following are the steps to improved speech in a nutshell. Then scroll down for more specifics.
5 Steps to Speaking Better:
- Don’t pop your t’s.
- Make sure you don’t go up at the end of your utterances.
- Don’t over-articulate.
- Use a varied intonation pattern
- Use loads of air when you speak. Your speech “rides” on the air.
Great speakers have executive presence. They exude charisma. And it’s not magic. People who speak well have an authoritative voice and a very compelling way about them. If they haven’t told you that they had coaching it’s only because they don’t want you to know. They want you to think they were born with it.
Speaking well isn’t what you think.
Many people come to me & ask how to speak better because they want to be heard. They want people to listen to them. And they don’t want to be interrupted. People really want to get their genius out. This results in our being recognized for our ideas & treated with respect.
Your genius is in there!
You have smart things to say. For some reason, it doesn’t come across all the time. Especially at work, in meetings, and when you meet people for the first time.
How to Speak Better
Your goal is to have a clear, warm, and engaging speaking style to attract people with your speech and your style. You want to have people hanging on the edge of their seats while you speak.
It is not done by over-pronouncing your words. Let me show you five real strategies for improving your speech. The following are the steps you need to learn how to speak better.
1. Don’t pop your Ts!
Ts are only popped when they are at the beginning of a sentence and followed by a vowel. When T or a double T (as in “letter” or “butter”) is in the middle of a word, it’s pronounced as a “flap” sound. That’s a smooth sound that is produced when your tongue lightly touches your alveolar ridge, which is the bumpy part on the roof of your mouth behind your teeth.
Guess what? It gets even better. The same thing applies when a T is in the middle of a sentence!
Here’s your example. Say this sentence aloud.
“Put it on my desk.”
How many flaps do you count in this sentence? Did you count 2? Muy Bueno! If you say the sentence aloud properly, “pudidanmuhdesk” is how it sounds. You thought if you wanted to learn how to speak better you’d have to do the opposite, didn’t you? So the truth is it’s easier than you thought!
2. Don’t go up at the end.
Upspeak or uptalk is when one ends their phrases or sentences with a higher pitch. We use this when we ask yes/no questions. When this upward intonation reaches our brain, our audience attempts to make a yes/no decision, thereby undermining your authority and confusing your message.
You’ll speak better just by bringing your pitch & intonation down at the end. Here’s more information on stopping the use of upspeak.
3. Your speech teacher was wrong — TH sounds don’t matter.
Dudes! Stop sticking your tongue out of your mouth. Words like “then”, “them”, “those”, & “the.”
Determiners are not as important as the content of your sentence. You shouldn’t spend as much time on them. Just put your tongue behind your teeth and make the sound more of a “stop” than a fricative (friction-causing sound).
Which leads me to my next rule:
4. Use a varied intonation pattern.
Think of your words like musical notes. Each one has a different length. You’ve got whole notes, half notes, and quarter notes. You get the picture.
Spend more time on the words that give your listener more meaning. Shorten the amount of time on words that I call “grammar glue.” Those are articles, conjunctions, and prepositions that are necessary but don’t give much information. They are cute but not giving your listener any additional information – they’re distracting from your message.
There’s lots of information about intonation here.
5. Use loads of air when you speak.
Just try it. You’ll like it. Speech is air molecules that vibrate. When you’re stingy with your air, or you don’t breathe at all, your voice sounds less attractive and not at all magnetic. The more air you use, the more attractive, magnetic, confident, and persuasive you sound. As a result, you’re taken seriously & appreciated.
More so if you don’t use vocal fry.
Take a breath into your lower lungs (make sure you’re using abdominal breathing) and then as you exhale allow your voice to take a ride on the exhaled air. take a listen to your voice on the recorder. You’ll think it’s going to sound crazy but when you hear it you’ll realize it sounds pretty amazing.
Speaking in a manner where people understand your message and follow your call-to-action is not difficult. It’s easy when you take it step-by-step.
Systematize your plan. Improve the above areas in easier speaking situations. Start improving your food and beverage orders. Leave better voicemails. Master the basic steps of communication, and you will speak clearly and confidently during presentations and meetings.
Measure your speech success. Don’t expect 100% accuracy the first time you use one of my clear speaking tricks. Expect incremental improvement. Shoot for jumps of 10%.
You can do this. You have a right to get your message out there. Let the world hear your genius!
Schedule a speech consult
Let us evaluate your speech for you. We will be very specific and tell you what’s going on with your speech. We’ll also teach you how to speak better. What are the results? You, sounding amazing & having amazing relationships with all those in your life.