How to Speak Better--You May be Doing it Totally Wrong

How to Speak Better: Is the Way You’re Doing it Now Totally Wrong?

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Chances are the way you’ve been trying to improve your speech has been doing more harm than good. For 20 years, people have been coming to me to learn how to speak better.  Their goals are to be crystal clear, highly influential and very confident during speaking situations. That makes sense, right? Most often people think the solution is to improve their articulation and the pronunciation of sounds.


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Working on your pronunciation of sounds makes you sound less intelligible, significantly less interesting and just plain old hard to follow.  And maybe even a bit pompous. Why? One reason is because your speech becomes staccato and even-steven. Our brains have evolved to process information based on intonation, not specific sounds.

Another reason is that in English we use what’s called “coarticulation” meaning that each sound within an utterance is impacted by the sounds surrounding it. It becomes a different sound than you were taught in phonics class. Yup. A rose may always be a rose but a “t” is not always a “t.”

There are many moving parts when you’re learning to speak better, but your focus should be on intonation.

How to Speak Better

What is intonation?

Good question, thanks for asking. Intonation is the placement of emphasis in the form of volume and duration of a vowel within a syllable.

If you just want to skip to the tricks because you don’t have time for the “why” just scroll down to the bottom. You can bookmark the page & go over the “why” when you have time. 🙂

Working on your pronunciation of sounds makes you sound less intelligible, significantly less interesting and just plain old hard to follow. And maybe even a bit pompous. Click To Tweet

Using a Varied Intonation Pattern to Speak Better

Let me explain. The use of intonation in Standard American English (SAE) is a mystery to most. Romance languages have strict rules for placing emphasis on words and sentences. And when there’s a change in emphasis, they use an accent mark. Asian languages also follow strict intonation patterns. Usually, those consonant and vowel patterns have an even emphasis on each syllable.

The voice that you hear in your head when you speak is conducted by bone. So it sounds deeper & richer. But that's not what others hear. They hear what's conducted by air. Click To Tweet

In SAE, there seems to be no rhyme or reason to where we place emphasis, but there is reason — and it’s a real reason as to why we place emphasis where we do. We use intonation to convey information that goes beyond the words we speak. If you want to learn how to speak better you must understand intonation.

Lots of information is dispersed using just emphasis alone.

Say it like this: T’day I’d like t' discuss th' bizness practices f’th’green monkey. #IntonationMatters Click To Tweet

How Your Brain Processes Speech

Have you ever had a television program on where the volume was too low to hear what the actors were saying but you could still make out their speaking cadence and sound? You still got the gist of what was going on, right? That’s because our American brains are programmed to process intonation as information.

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Have you ever gone to a conference with great interest in the subject matter only to start dreaming about what you’re going to have for lunch five minutes after the speaker starts? Well, most likely it’s not your fault. It’s the fault of the speaker who, in an honest attempt to speak with great emphasis, is using staccato speech with no intonation. So if you want to learn how to speak better, you’ll need to start using a varied intonation pattern, not a monotone one.

Why Poor Intonation = Poor Speech

I’d like to show you what even emphasis on each syllable looks like. If you could hear me speaking right now, that would be great. But let’s settle for font formatting.

“Thank you all for coming. Today I’d like to discuss the business practices of the green monkey.”

Say the above sentence out loud. I bolded the vowels. When you come across a vowel, make it louder and longer. You hear how it sounds staccato and even? It’s how most people try to improve their speech.

Listening to someone speak in a staccato tone makes me think about lunch. Should I get chicken cutlet on a roll with mayo? Or should I be really good and get a salad?

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I will do anything other than listening to what the speaker is saying if she’s using an even-steven tone. The more I listen to this drone, the more I think I have to treat myself and get the sandwich.

Now this is’t mean. It’s just my brain unable to process the information. Our brains process information much easier when we use a varied intonation pattern.

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I’m here to help.

Using Intonation to Speak Better

Let’s try that sentence again the right way. Here’s what you do:

First, determine which words provide the most information and emphasize them and only them. Ok? Good start. It gets a little trickier.

Now determine which syllable in those words get the main stress and only emphasize that vowel. There should be no more than 15% of your vowels considered important.

The other 85% of vowels should be reduced. I mean crazy-reduced to the point that they may not exist. Let’s try it together.

“Thank you all fr coming. T’day I’d like t’ discuss th’ bizness practices f’th’green monkey.”

How exciting is that?! Hello! That is so much more interesting. You can make what you consider to be the most boring topic in the world interesting.

Using Air For Speech to Speak Better

Another thing you’ll want to do to sound amazing is to use air for speech. Speech is air molecules that vibrate. That’s what sound is. molecules vibrating all the way to your tympanic membrane (that’s a fancy word for ear drum. Cuz I’m fancy.) where it’s directed to your brain to be processed as language. Isn’t that amazing! I’ve been helping people to speak better for 20 years and I still think it’s amazing!

The voice that you hear in your head when you speak, by the way, is conducted by bone. So it sounds deeper & richer. But that’s not what others hear. They hear the voice you ear on the recorder. It’s true. You can’t say, “I don’t really sound like that.” when you hear your voice on the recorder. Because you do.

The more air you use when speaking the better you’ll sound. Resulting in a voice that sounds ultra confident, authoritative & warm.

Following my direction gives you control over your speech, yourself and others. Contact our team right now for a free, no-obligation speech assessment. We’ll make you sound crystal clear and smooth. Learn a bit about me.

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