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How to Speak Better: Is the Way You’re Doing it Now Totally Wrong?

Chances are the way you’ve been trying to improve your speaking skills has been doing more harm than good. For 20 years, people have been telling me they want to be crystal clear, highly influential, and very confident during speaking situations. That makes sense, right?

Most often, people think the solution to better speaking is to improve their articulation and the pronunciation of sounds. I’m still reading articles and watching videos of people teaching you to move your mouth like a maniac and punch out on every letter that you see.

They couldn’t be more wrong! Have you seen a famous actor moving his/her face like crazy as they’re getting their message across magnetically? Do you see national news anchors smiling like made to make the /i/ sound or puckering up for a kiss when they’re making the /o/ or /u/ sound? No. And you won’t. Do you want to sound amazing? Read on.

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How to Improve Your Speaking Skills

You can improve your speaking skills. It’s not rocket science, it’s pretty easy. Enhancing your speaking & communication skills merely takes some diligence and persistence.

  1. Don’t over-articulate
  2. Use a varied intonation pattern
  3. Use pauses. Stop, breathe in.
  4. Let your voice take a ride on your breath. (Speech is air molecules vibrating)
  5. Let the air vibrate in the back of the mouth
  6. Keep your throat open for a smooth, warm sound
  7. Reduce upspeak & glottal fry
  8. Smile and use friendly eye-contact

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Whatever You Do, Don’t Over-Articulate

Working on your pronunciation of sounds makes you sound less intelligible, significantly less exciting, and just plain old hard to follow. And maybe even a bit stuffy. Why? One reason is that your speech becomes staccato and even-steven. Our brains have evolved to process information based on intonation, not specific sounds.

Another reason is that in English, we use what’s called “coarticulation,” meaning that each sound within an utterance is impacted by the sounds surrounding it. It becomes a different sound than you were taught in phonics class. Yup. A rose may always be a rose, but a “t” is not always a “t.”

There are many moving parts when you’re learning to speak better, but your focus should be on intonation.


What is intonation?

Good question, thanks for asking. Intonation is the placement of emphasis in the form of volume and duration of a vowel within a syllable.

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If you want to skip to the tricks because you don’t have time for the “why,” scroll down to the bottom. You can bookmark the page & go over the “why” when you have time. 🙂

Working on your pronunciation of sounds makes you sound less intelligible, significantly less interesting and just plain old hard to follow. And maybe even a bit pompous. Click To Tweet

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Using a Varied Intonation Pattern to Improve Speaking

Let me explain. The use of intonation in Standard American English (SAE) is a mystery to most. Romance languages have strict rules for emphasizing words and sentences. And when there’s a change in emphasis, they use an accent mark. Asian languages also follow rigid intonation patterns. Usually, those consonant and vowel patterns have an even emphasis on each syllable.

The voice that you hear in your head when you speak is conducted by bone. So it sounds deeper & richer. But that's not what others hear. They hear what's conducted by air. Click To Tweet

In SAE, there seems to be no rhyme or reason to where we place emphasis, but there is a reason — and it’s a real reason as to why we place emphasis where we do. We use intonation to convey information that goes beyond the words we speak. If you want to learn how to improve your speaking skills, you must understand intonation.

Lots of information is dispersed using just emphasis alone.

Say it like this: T’day I’d like t' discuss th' bizness practices f’th’green monkey. #IntonationMatters Click To Tweet

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How Your Brain Processes Speech

Have you ever had a television program on where the volume was too low to hear what the actors were saying, but you could still make out their vocal cadence and sound? You still got the gist of what was going on, right? That’s because our American brains are programmed to process intonation as information.

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Have you ever gone to a conference with great interest in the subject matter only to start dreaming about what you’re going to have for lunch five minutes after the speaker starts? Well, most likely it’s not your fault. It’s the fault of the speaker who, in an honest attempt to speak with great emphasis, is using staccato speech with no intonation. So if you want to learn how to speak better, you’ll need to start using a varied intonation pattern, not a monotone one.

Why Poor Intonation = Poor Speech

I want to show you what even emphasis on each syllable looks like. If you could hear me speaking right now, that would be great. But let’s settle for font formatting.

“Thank you all for coming. Today I’d like to discuss the business practices of the green monkey.”

Say the above sentence out loud. I bolded the vowels. When you come across a vowel, make it louder and longer. You hear how it sounds staccato and even? It’s how most people try to improve their speech.

Listening to someone speak in a staccato tone makes me think about lunch. Should I get chicken cutlet on a roll with mayo? Or should I be really good and get a salad?

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It’s not that we don’t want to listen, we do. It’s just our brains unable to process the spoken information. We are physically unable to understand what the speaker is saying.

Our brains process information much easier when we listen to a varied intonation pattern.

Improving speaking skills is necessary for getting ahead in life.

You can make what you consider to be the most boring topic in the world interesting. #presentationskills #communicate Click To Tweet

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Using Varied Intonation to Sound Amazing

Let’s try that sentence again the right way. Here’s what you do:

First, determine which words provide the most information and emphasize them and only them. Ok? Good start. It gets a little trickier.

Now determine which syllable in those words gets the primary stress and only emphasize that vowel. There should be no more than 15% of your vowels considered important.

Next, reduce the other 85% of the syllables. I mean crazy-reduced to the point that they may not exist. Let’s try it together.

“Thank you all fr coming. T’day I’d like t’ discuss th’ bizness practices f’th’green monkey.”

How exciting is that?! Hello! That is so much more interesting. You can make what you consider to be the most boring topic in the world interesting.

Using Air For Speech to Speak Better

Another thing you’ll want to do to sound amazing is to use air for speech. Speech is air molecules that vibrate. That’s what sound is. Molecules vibrating to your tympanic membrane (that’s a fancy word for eardrum. Cuz I’m fancy.) where it’s directed to your brain and processed as language. Isn’t that amazing! I’ve been helping people to speak better for 20 years, and I still think it’s incredible!

The voice that you hear in your head when you speak, by the way, is conducted by bone. So it sounds deeper & richer. But that’s not what others hear. They hear the voice you ear on the recorder. It’s true. You can’t say, “I don’t really sound like that.” when you hear your voice on the recorder because you do.

The more air you use when speaking, the better you’ll sound — resulting in a voice that sounds ultra-confident, authoritative & warm.

Using Pauses for Clearer Speech

Place pauses into your speech. Pauses are the real trick for slowing down.

When you are speaking, you stop, take a breath in, then use the air for your speech. You let your voice take a ride on the air.

These breaks allow your listener to process the information that you’ve just said & give you the chance to formulate your next utterance.

Use a Back Resonance to Improve Speaking Skills

Now that you’re using air for speech, try to focus the vibration of that air over the back of your tongue. Limit your lip movement.

Following my direction gives you control over your speech, yourself, and others. This is how to work on improving speaking skills.

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Reduce Upspeak for Amazing Speech

You know what “upspeak” is, right? It’s when you use an upward inflection (pitch) at the end of a declarative sentence. A rising pitch at the end of an utterance indicates a yes/no question. The biggest problem with this is not that it’s annoying to some people. The problem with upspeak is that it makes it very difficult for your listener to process the information that you are communicating.

Every time someone hears the yes/no question intonation, their brain tells them to decide between yes & no. Upspeak immediately removes credibility from the speaker. The speaker is continually asking the listener if what she’s saying is correct or incorrect. It’s as if the upspeaker is saying, “Am I right? Am I right? You decide.”

To improve your speaking skills, get rid of upspeak. I did. 🙂

How to Eliminate Glottal Fry

What they say out there about glottal fry being your lowest register or that you’re too relaxed is entirely false. Glottal fry is a result of too much tension in your throat.

  1. keep your throat completely relaxed,
  2. bring your tongue down in the back
  3.  let a lot of air out


To eliminate Upspeak or Glottal Fry go here. Its where I teach you how to have a full, resonant, crystal clear, and magnetic voice that gets you what you need in life. 🙂


Wow! Was that too much information? It sounds like a lot. But take it small sections at a time. Let me know what you think & if you have any questions in the comment section.

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