You have influential people in your life, right? They are some seriously smooth operators. People just do what they say without any questions. They speak and folks are magnetized.
What do they know that you don’t?
Straight off the bat, they know how to be relaxed in high-stakes situations and how to convey concise messages. They weren’t born with that information either. And their moms didn’t put special “influence others” juice in their bottles.
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Influential people also know how NOT to be Interrupted. Yup, even the women. You see most interruptions happen when you don’t know how to maintain people’s attention. It’s not a mystery.
Influential people learned the techniques and practiced them.
Why would they do that? Oh, only because it’s going to make them get ahead in life!
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Do you know what else they know? They know how to sound smart, and they know that nobody was born a perfect communicator.
They know that everything they want to do well (tennis, anyone?, playing an instrument, marketing, IT, legal studies, etc.) has to be learned and practiced repeatedly. They know they have to continue to put into practice all the techniques necessary to be influential.
They’ve studied and put to practice the art of being persuasive. They’ve mastered the ability to translate their thoughts into words. They design well-crafted sentences in the spur of the moment. They learned how to speak authoritatively and they can be assertive without being rude. All because they learned the necessary techniques and practiced them.
They can easily speak up in meetings. They don’t let fear stop them. Public speaking is like second nature to them. They’ve made learning how to deliver bad news a priority in their lives.
None of this is taught in school so they had to go out of their way to seek it out.
Most have even trained with a coach.
We live in an ultra-competitive environment.
And training with a speaker coach is something very few people talk about.
I’ve been training people to be incredible conversationalists (and to be persuasive, sound intelligent, articulate their thoughts into words, be concise, improve the sound of their speaking voice, the whole 9 yards) for twenty-five years.
Some folks brag about me and tell everyone about my training. 🙂 Thank you, guys!
But most people tell me they’re going to keep it to themselves as a secret weapon. Do I feel sad about that? Yes, but, hey, we live in an ultra-competitive society, and they need that edge.
Maybe you’re as good as that other Marketer, but they crushed that job interview merely by talking, so they got the job.
Maybe you’re even a better lawyer than your competition, but they spoke clearly and persuasively, so they got the job. (Which lawyer would you hire?)
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Want to be more influential? We all want to communicate our most important messages in a way that encourages others to take action. Whether that action is voting for our candidate or picking up milk from the store, the words we use and how we speak play a huge role in getting the job done.
You wanted that promotion, but sparkly Susie got it. Who does she know?
Nobody.
It’s not who she knows; it’s what she knows. And that is: How to be an influential person. She knows how to get others to see things her way.
Crossing your fingers, closing your eyes, and hoping to be incredibly influential.
So if crossing your fingers and holding your breath isn’t working, it’s time to start learning the techniques yourself.
You can:
DIY with my new and improved blog articles:) Pair them with some micro-sessions and you’ll be on your way to sounding incredible in a very short time!
Independent study with The Voice Spa and The Executive Communicator and The Perfect Accent
Take individual classes with me!
Or any combination of the above. Let us guide you to become a relaxed, confident, well-spoken communicator in all high-stakes situations.
When you need to be influential
You don’t only need to be influential in super high-stakes situations like job interviews or asking for funding on Shark Tank! No! Everything that comes out of your mouth is intended to influence others.
When you speak in a meeting you want people to accept your ideas. Even if it’s a virtual meeting. When you speak to your friends you want them to think you’re smart and interesting.
We’re not always trying to manipulate someone to take out the trash for us. That’s not what influence is all about.
It’s about having warm, successful relationships with the people in our lives.
How to be influential.
Being influential is a skill you can learn, it’s not an inherent characteristic.
- Be calm, cool, and collected.
- Be concise when speaking.
- Be an excellent listener.
- Use a magnetic voice.
- Improve your body language.
- Use a varied intonation pattern.
- Be warm and smile.
If you want to have more influence over others you must practice the above. When you’re speaking in a meeting on a topic in your wheelhouse, you have a right to be influential!
If you’re sharing your ideas with others, you want people to listen to you and to find you credible and authoritative. That is your right. Learning to be influential is not evil. Unless you’re trying to get others to do something immoral or unethical. Please don’t do that! Use these skills for the good of mankind! 🙂
How to be influential in high-stakes situations.
Did you ever notice that you’re a smooth operator when you’re ordering food or talking to someone you feel comfortable with?
But then when there’s something you really want, and you don’t know if you’re going to get it you start to stumble and sound a bit less confident?
Ain’t that ironic? There’s no need to be influential when you’re ordering food and drink, but when you’re trying to get others to follow your call to action at work you’re not exactly pulling it off!
You’re not alone! It happens to everyone! But do make sure you learn how to be relaxed and how to breathe. Make sure you practice the specific techniques to be persuasive during high-stakes situations.
The Voice Spa
The Voice Spa is an online video course that teaches you to be habitually relaxed in all high-stakes situations. You’ll be ultra-confident and cool as a cucumber being interview on Bloomberg or GMA. You’ll be smooth as silk during an interview or on Shark Tank 🙂
But it does loads more than that.
You learn to use a concise speaking style and a compelling voice. Then I teach you the techniques to being persuasive. I give you lots of practice.
You’ll learn to use a back resonance which gives you a very professional sound. Your voice will be so magnetic people will just do precisely what you tell them to do.
if you do your homework (it’s not brain surgery but requires some diligence), you’ll end up being an incredibly well-spoken persuasive person. You’ll still be you only more compelling and influential.
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The Executive Communicator
Did you ever know someone who could walk into a room and suddenly receive all the attention? Someone who everyone would stop to listen to as soon as they opened their mouth to speak? Are they magic? No, they have executive presence.
Executive presence is something most people can’t put their finger on. How do they do it?
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People with executive presence are great leaders and get promoted easily. They garner respect and are considered highly credible. They make complex concepts easy to understand, and they’re enjoyable to engage with. They get people to like them easily.
They’re engaging and compelling public speakers. Were they born this way? Not likely. Most incredible communicators have learned and practiced the techniques necessary to being charismatic and having that certain je ne sais quoi that people with executive presence display.
The Executive Communicator video course will teach you the same techniques that these folks know. And then some.
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The Perfect Accent is the only program in the world that teaches you to use a Standard American accent in all situations of your life.
You learn the American voice, the American resonance, rhythm, intonation. You learn all kinds of tricks that Americans do and don’t even know it!
You’ll learn all these techniques as a habit in your life. You’ll never need to work on your speech again.
Combine any of these courses with Micro-sessions and you are golden! The only thing missing from the video courses is the feedback. And I’ll give you just that in your micro-sessions with me 🙂
