It’s happened to you, hasn’t it? You’re in a meeting, with brilliant ideas floating around your mind, and they don’t come out. Maybe you didn’t say anything at all. Or perhaps you did, and it didn’t come out the way it sounded in your head.
I want to make this clear straight away. The process of drawing conclusions in your mind is very different from explaining your ideas to others.
When you intake information, your brain quickly processes it using data you’ve acquired during your life. But when you report information to others, they’re working with a different dataset. Their experiences are different from yours. Thus the words you use may not register with them.
Have no fear, my dears; there is a process to conveying information, and I’m here to teach it to you.
Learn & practice the techniques.
It’s entirely possible to become one of those crystal clear speakers who have executive presence and are compelling public speakers. Once you learn the techniques (and practice them) you’ll be the one answering difficult questions like a rockstar and crushing your job interviews.
You’ll be persuading everyone at the meeting to follow along with your ideas and getting people to like you immediately.
Everyone who is this charismatic sort has worked on their skills. They went ahead and learned the techniques and put them into action. Some people may have an easier time than others, but they knew it was necessary for success.
And the bad news? They’re not telling you they did it! This is a highly competitive world, now much more than ever and they are trying to set themselves apart.
Your brilliant ideas conveyed and adored.
But we can do it together! Let’s get your brilliant ideas out to your teammates and clients so they clearly understand and love your message.
This isn’t hard but it’s going to take some practice. I’ll list the techniques necessary below and then I’ll further describe how it’s done.
Remember, Warren Buffet says that improving your communication skills is worth 500 thousand dollars throughout your lifetime. So bootstrapping it may not be in your best interest.
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That involves practice. Everything you read below–be sure to practice at least 10 minutes every day for about a month.
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Meetings are high-stakes situations.
How to Speak Up in Meetings
Here I’ll give you an overview and the following will be more specifics. Be sure to click the links for more in-depth instructions.
- Realize that meetings are high-stakes situations. You care about the outcome. You want people to consider you credible and an authority on the topic.
- Understand that conveying your message involves a different process than thinking the ideas in your head.
- Sit at the back of your chair. This offers your upper body support so that you can be relaxed & breathe.
- Feel confident that your message is valuable.
- Emanate warmth. Look around the room and care about the other participants. You can even look at each person on your computer screen. They’ll feel good that you’ve taken the time to look at each of them.
- Be relaxed. Increase your awareness of where the tension lies in your musculature and get into the habit of eliminating it.
- Use abdominal breathing.
- Speak with pauses. Once you become accustomed to silence, there will be no stopping the influence you’ll have over your colleagues.
- Smile & make eye contact.
Meetings are high-stakes. Don’t blow it.
There’s a lot riding on the ideas that you convey at your meetings.
You can tell your best friend your genius ideas, and she thinks your firm is lucky to have you. She says you should be the CEO. But for some reason, you don’t deliver the concept as profoundly when you’re in a meeting. Is it a mystery?
Mystery solved. There was no mystery. Communicating well during informal situations & poorly during high-stakes situations is normal and happens to everyone.
Our bodies go into fight or flight during anxiety-ridden situations, causing our minds to draw a blank, rapid speech, high pitched voices, shaky voice, the list goes on.
Since your body is in fight-or-flight you are unable to deliver your message as well as when you’re comfortable. You become filled with self-doubt. So I’ll give you the strategies and you’ll need to practice them.
You’ll want to have an open body posture and sit at the back of your chair. Keeping your body supported keeps you in control of yourself. An open body posture means don’t cross your arms or legs.
Communication skills go both ways. You’ll want to use what you know on others as they’re speaking. Take a look around you at the meeting and see what your colleagues’ bodies are doing. Are their arms crossed? They may be defensive. Are they sitting against the back of their chair with their head up? They’re feeling confident.
Feel Confident That Your Message is Valuable
You’re good at what you do. You’ve been working on it for a long time. Have you made some mistakes? Yes, but you’ve learned from them.
Your bosses, colleagues, team, and clients need to hear your message. Your input is inestimable. It’s your responsibility to deliver it so people can act on your ideas.
Love Your Audience
Don’t think about yourself. Overlook your fear of being ridiculed or dismissed and focus only on how your ideas will help your audience.
I don’t distinguish between audiences. If you’re in a meeting or on the stage, most of the same rules apply. If you care about what your audience knows and what they need to know, you can remove your fear and anxiety.
When you love your audience, you emanate warmth, and your credibility shoots way up.
Speak From Your Abdomen
Speech is air molecules that vibrate. Your vocal mechanism is a musical instrument. There’s a ton of misinformation out there that we are supposed to speak from our throats. That’s incorrect. Speaking from your throat keeps you in a state of fight or flight.
You want to use abdominal breathing for speech. This will keep you relaxed and give you an authoritative and influential voice.
Speak with Pauses
To be easily understood, we need to provide information in chunks. That’s how people process information most efficiently. Bulleting your speech also stops you from using filler words because you replace your fillers with pauses.
I want to hear from you! Have you got any neat tricks you use to speak up in meetings? Any embarrassing tales of woe during meetings? Share them in the comments section below.