So you find yourself talking too fast sometimes, huh? Here’s the good news: You’re not alone. Most people speak too fast, at least sometimes in their lives.
But here comes the bad news: It happens most when the stakes are high. Yup. When you need to deliver your message in the most eloquent, smashing way is when you start to screw up.
Why do you talk so fast in high-stake situations?
Well, it’s no mystery. It’s because you want something out of those situations. The more you want it, the more your body goes into fight-or-flight.
Granted, some folks speak too quickly in all speaking situations, but they may find they speed up even more when they’re in high-pressure situations.
Stay with my here:
Did you ever notice that your bad speaking habits happen in high-stakes situations? When you’re comfy cozy with someone you know well, you’ve got no problems at all.
But in a meeting or delivering a presentation–that’s a different story! Suddenly you can draw a blank and forget what you were going to say! Or you just start talking too fast and using too many words to deliver a simple point.
The evil voice in your head can make you talk too fast, too.
Did you ever get that voice in your head? While you’re working on a project, the voice tells you how talented you are? You’re such a genius; your project is spot-on and you’re going to crush it!
Then you’re in front of your audience and you’re explaining your project to your boss or the prospects, and suddenly your generous Jekyll voice turns into Mr. Hyde. WaaaHaaHaaHaaaa! This new, evil voice is telling you how your ideas aren’t good enough and you should just shut up and sit down.
Influential people already know the rules.
And they’re not going to stop learning.
They learned how to speak with a standard American English accent. They learned and practice being concise while speaking and they learned how to answer difficult questions and diffuse tense situations.
Let’s take a look at some case studies.
“I’m an executive, good at my job, been going up the ranks in my career.
When I was in meetings, though, I felt like no one was listening to me. Often I couldn’t get what was in my head out of my mouth.
Sometimes someone else would say just what I was trying to say and get massive kudos for it! It was my idea! And when I got nervous, I would talk crazy fast!
I met with Ita, and she told me that none of this was a mystery. That I was normal & it happened to most people! All fantastic communicators have worked on their communication skills!
The skills I learned at Convey were life-changing. Literally. My life has changed for the better. People listen to me speak; they follow my advice and direction; I’m not nervous before or during presentations–quite the opposite–I love presenting now! Who’d of thought that?! Not me!“
To stop speaking so fast, speak in bullets
Thank you, Peter!
Peter found me on LinkedIn and told me he was a C-level exec at a major corporation. He was well-spoken on the phone and described that he had intense meetings that could become ungovernable. I noticed he spoke a bit fast even on our phone call.
All we had to do was get him to use some pauses and be more concise. I taught him how to make his utterances more like bullet points.
Then we worked to make his skills a habit in his life so he never has to think about slowing down again.
Please stop interrupting me.
“I was doing well in my career, moving up the ladder and finding myself in more client meetings. But sometimes people would interrupt me or not understand my message. Sometimes I’d be speaking, and my mind would draw a blank. I had no idea what the problem was!
Then my colleague told me about Convey. The process was seamless. I met with Ita; she told me precisely what I was doing wrong to allow people to interrupt me, and taught me how to fix it.
Now I speak clearly, concisely, and at a great pace as a habit! never knew it was a thing!“
To stop speaking fast use breath groups.
Krista was such a pleasure to work with!
She presented with overly wordy speech and she connected all of her ideas with “um”s and “and”s. Don’t laugh! Most people do!
This was causing folks to not understand her message fully and feel the need to interrupt to get to the point.
All we had to do was help her to speak in concise bullets (noticing a pattern here?) and train her to do it habitually. This also helped her speak at a normal rate. Not too fast and not too slow.
Accent reduction, it’s a thing.
“I’m originally from Japan, but after 17 years on Long Island, my accent was a mix of the two. It was awful.
I met with Ita–she was amazing! She told me we could do this!
Twelve sessions later, I gave a speech at my best friend’s wedding. I was easily able to apply all the techniques Ita taught me. It was incredible. One woman blamed me for smearing her makeup; she was crying so hard.“
You can completely change your accent, no matter what anyone says. I’ve been doing it for my clients successfully for 25 years. You only have to want it bad enough and follow the rules 🙂
Of course, speaking at a normal rate is a part of accent reduction.
The Perfect Accent video course will teach you everything you need to speak with a Standard American English accent. Pronunciation, American back resonance, rhythm, intonation, etc.
You’ll be crystal clear and highly persuasive in all high-stakes situations. People will find you credible and they’ll be able to see the real you.
My speaking voice!
“I hated the sound of my voice. It was timid and sing-songy. It was causing me to be interrupted when presenting at work. It used to take me as many as ten tries to record a voice-mail message.
When I listened to myself, it didn’t sound intelligent. I looked forever for help and never found it until I started working with Ita. She understood me right away and explained that I had to do my part of the work. It took time, but it wasn’t hard.
The results have been incredible–my voice is charismatic and confident all at the same time. I’m never interrupted, and people love my ideas!”
V Lynch Citibank
Bad speaking habits.
Guys, guys, guys. Please don’t be under the pervasive misconception that the voice you’re speaking with is the voice you’ll have forever. That the voice you’re speaking with is your natural voice. This is not the case. You can improve your speaking voice significantly.
In fact, you probably should–the voice you’re speaking with is likely hindered by physiological tension. This can cause damage to your vocal cords as well as make your voice sound less attractive and less magnetic.
Magnetic people have magnetic voices.
Do you love the voice you hear on the recorder? Because that’s the one other people hear. Most people don’t know they are not speaking with their true voice, but yes, their voices are hindered by physiological tension.