Guess what? It’s completely normal to be nervous before a speech. Actually, it’s! We are genetically programmed to be fearful of strangers & groups of people. Not so long ago, the chance of strangers trying to do you some harm was very likely.
We hung out in tribes. Other tribes were competition. Yeah. So fight or flight is the typical way people react to public speaking. It’s up to us to change that. It’s up to us to actually learn how not to be nervous. Here’s how:
6 Steps to Not Be Nervous
- Be Relaxed. Learn some relaxation exercises. I have some fantastic ones. You can come to me, or you can go online to find some. Make being relaxed a habit. I teach all of my clients to FindYourRelaxedPlace in every communicative situation of their lives.
You’ll need to do your relaxation exercises for a few weeks for them to stick. The best way to do this is to make BeingInYourRelaxedPlace a habit in your life.
- Love Your Audience.
I talk about loving your audience all over this blog. Once you let go of worrying that everyone in the audience doesn’t like you or thinks you’re dumb and realize you’re just here for your listeners, your skills will improve a thousand-fold.
- Once you remove the focus from yourself & think only about what the audience knows & what they need to know from you, you don’t worry about whether your audience will like you.
- Pick a song that motivates you and walk onto the stage with that song in your head. Stepping to the beat. (Subtly) Dancing onto the stage. How’s about a little JT “Can’t Stop the Feeling” Or “Staying Alive” by the Bee Gees. I’m telling you the dancing thing works!
- Keep your arms wide open for 10 minutes before your speech. Keep your arms open as you walk out on stage. A relaxed body will make it so you’ll not be nervous at all. You’ll feel happy!
When your body is closed, you lose control over yourself & have no control over others. We need to control others! Not to do evil things! Please don’t do that. But we need people to believe that we’re experts in our wheelhouses. We need to control them enough to get them to understand our message & follow our call-to-action.
- As you walk on stage, make sure you lead with your core & not your head. It would help if you did this throughout your life. Your Body Language can control your emotions. Use them to your advantage.