It’s no secret that the excessive use of filler words makes you seem less intelligent than you are. Look at the various speaking situations in your life, for example: meetings, introductions, small talk at the water cooler, giving presentations and put them in order in terms of stakes. Put the low stakes on the bottom & high stakes situations on top. If you’re being honest with yourself you’ll see that you use more filler words in the higher stakes speaking situation. How unfortunate & ironic is that? When we most need to be at our best we perform at our worst. I’m going to show you an easy way to eliminate filler words from your life.
Eliminate Filler Words
Filler words, using “um”s, “uh”s, “you know”s and the like are NOT the way to appear credible and be persuasive! It’s not hard to eliminate filler words from your life, but it is going to take a bit of determination.Sign up for more amazing tips in your inbox. Not too frequent. Never spam 🙂
Here’s how to do it: Take a breath in before you speak, then use the air that you breathe out for your speech. When you are done with your phrase or sentence, STOP, take a breath in and use that air for your next phrase or sentence. This just takes a bit of practice but results in your sounding credible & persuasive!
Doing this essentially causes you to Replace Filler Words with Pauses. This, by the way, is the correct way to speak 🙂
Step 1. Hit the record button on your voice recorder app. Don’t be scared! You can do this!
Step 2. Take a breath in (all the way down to your stomach.)
Step 3. Using the air that comes out on your exhale say a short sentence.
Step 4. Stop. Breathe into your stomach again.
Step 5. On your exhalation say another short sentence.
Practice this for 5 minutes every day for 10 days. You are practicing replacing filler words with pauses and a breath in.
Filler Words Begone From All Areas of Your Life!
Ok, now you know how to eliminate filler words from your speech but how to do make it a habit in your life?
Keep in mind that unlearning old habits & learning new ones requires a bit of exaggeration. So don’t be afraid to use long pauses & loads of air while you’re speaking. And you have to sound a little crazy in your head. That’s the point of using the recorder. Because even though it sounds weird in your head, you’ll play it back on the recorder & it’ll sound amazing! After a while you’ll find your new normal–filler word free!
Categorize Your Speaking Life
Now choose 3 categories in your life where you want to eliminate your filler words. Do you use fillers in meetings more than with friends? Do you want to be filler-free during talks with your boss? How about when giving your elevator pitch? Chatting up a cutie pie on a first date? Just work on 1 speaking category at a time. Take each communicative situation and stack ’em in order of stakes like we did earlier.
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Write down some things that you might say during your chosen categories & apply the 5 steps. Don’t worry–you won’t have to memorize everything you’re ever going to say. Just do it for about a week. Each time you do it you’ll get better in your spontaneous speech. After a few of these exercises you’ll start to see this technique seeping into your everyday speech. 🙂
Happy filler-word free life!
What do you think? How do you get rid of your fillers? When do you use them most? Which fillers do you use most? All commenters get a secret prize!