No One Was Born a Perfect Communicator

No One Was Born a Perfect Communicator

No one. Not nobody. Everyone you know who’s an incredible communicator has worked on it. Anyone who you come across who’s an impressive public speaker has worked on their presentation skills. They most likely still have a coach helping them.

no one was born a perfect communicator

What about Ted Talkers?

Your favorite Ted Talkers? They’ve been working on that speech for many, many years. They most probably started in the church basement. Likely, they haven’t worked on their interpersonal communication skills as much and still feel a bit shaky when meeting new people or making introductions. See? In the infamous words of Madonna: Nobody’s perfect.

Why do I feel shame that I’m not a great communicator?

You went to school, and you focused on academia. You learned science, math, history, geography, maybe even music, but no communication skills! Show & tell began and ended in kindergarten. Did you learn how to introduce yourself in 3rd grade? Was it focused on? Did someone teach you how to make small talk? Did anyone prepare you for speaking in groups?

You work hard for your degrees, and then you get a job. And at work, you practice your skill-set for many years. You don’t get mad at yourself if you don’t know something, you go out and learn it! Your boss will pay for it!

How to Improve Your Communication Skills at Work

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Imagine if you put 1 thousandth of that energy into your communication skills?

Picture yourself getting the job or the promotion easily. See yourself at the cocktail party, telling exciting stories and developing strong relationships. Imagine knowing what to say and how to say it in all situations!

That’s precisely what can happen within a few weeks of training!

How to be a great communicator.

Here is an article with a step-by-step guide to becoming a confident, clear & convincing communicator.

Watch this video of Ita Olsen: Why am I Not Automatically an Incredible Speaker

9 thoughts on “No One Was Born a Perfect Communicator”

  1. Hello,
    Very good article! I love your blog. I have enjoyed reading the information about communication skills. Thanks for sharing a nice article.

    1. I’m with Dressner.

      Social scientist Marshall McLuhan said: All forms of communication, large and microscopic, are at their core persuasion.

      I guess they don’t want a bunch of persuasive adults running around so they don’t teach us communication skills!

  2. I like how Ted Talkers are mentioned in this article. I’m always captivated when listening to a Ted Talk. When I try to relay the information from such Ted Talks to others, it never comes out as well as the original speaker. Like anything else, good communication is a skillset that requires practice.

  3. That makes perfect sense! I’ve never thought about it before. You’re right, why don’t we learn all of these complicated things that adults get stressed over as kids, in school? So crazy.

  4. I never thought about this before and now that I think about it, yes I have felt shame when I don’t communicate my best which kinda happens a lot.

    Thank you so much for this article. I’ll try to spread the word!

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