How You Speak is Not your Identity.
Our speech is not a permanent characteristic. And why would we think for a moment that we shouldn’t get better at communicating? Our communication skills are the one single pivotal thing that gets us what we need out of life!
We spend hundreds of thousands of dollars for an education and then when we go into the interview we blow it. We’re scared out of our wits for weeks in advance. Our true selves don’t show when we’re in more high-stakes situations.
When we’re in anxiety-ridden situations we start speaking like a robot–choppy & monotonous. We speak too fast and our pitch gets high. Record your side of an interview next time, you’ll see what I mean.
I explain why this happens here Why You Suck at Public Speaking.
I’m trying to help my son be less anxious and convey his message without being nervous. When he gets approached and has to respond he gets angry as a teen especially with me as mom. He seems to hold a lot in and it’s ok not to be ok so I want him to feel comfortable in those situations. To at least be able to effectively say his experience. Very nice article with extremely important subject that should be more widespread for understanding one another.
Hi Rachel,
I sent you an email. Perhaps you didn’t see it. I’ll send it again 🙂
Warm regards,
Ita
My problem is my brain goes faster than my mouth lol. Working on it. I’m in the process of making speaking exercises and these awesome tips a part of my daily life. Great communication is a skill like anything else in life.